Tackle It Tuesday: Blogging With ADHD and Anxiety

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Having a brain that doesn't work the way brains "should" puts a person on a lonely road in this world when people are impatient and unwilling to understand. Which, to be honest, is most of the time. With posts like this one, I hope to foster tolerance and to encourage an attitude of helping people learn and grow rather than ostracizing those who don't fit the mold.

I'm not talking about trolls and spammers. They should be banished with extreme prejudice.

I'm talking about those bloggers who aren't "good" bloggers. The people who may not reply to comments right away and sometimes don't reply at all. The people whose participation in blog hops is irregular at best. The people who don't return visits or sometimes visit only a few people on the blog hop. 

These kinds of people tend to get labeled with epithets like "jerk" and other less kind names and are thought of as being rude and selfish. However, in my experience, most people whose "blogging etiquette" is not up to Emily Blog-Post's standards are not the bungholes of the blogging world, they are overwhelmed.

These guys actually are bungholes

I still struggle with the comments part of things. I'm pretty good about visiting all the blogs in the writers' blog hops (except for the IWSG--let's not go there), but sometimes it may take me a while to getting around to publishing comments, and, depending on my state of mind, I may not be able to reply to them. That isn't ideal, but I'm better than I used to be about it, and I probably will never be perfect. I could get drunk before replying to comments, but that wouldn't be pretty and it's not a good idea, so I think I won't employ that strategy.

I have ADHD, which means that I'm garbage with organizing things. However, one trick I've learned--very recently--is to prepare my posts ahead of time. I missed this month's MFRW Steam Hop because I'm disorganized and forgot about the sucker. 

To ensure that I'll be up to speed for future MFRW Steam hops, I've prescheduled my posts for October, November, and December. I can go back in and edit the posts as needed, and they will be there in my queue for this blog to remind me that I need to add my linky to the hop at the appropriate time.

Thus, the TL:DR for this post is:

Disorganized Wonders, schedule your posts ahead of time whenever possible. It will make your blogging experience easier.

Practically Perfect People, please try to be patient with those who seem to always be running behind and whose etiquette may not entirely align with yours. You don't know what challenges they may be dealing with. Don't curse them out or call them names like "dead weight" or "jerk." 

I'm in my fifties now and am just learning certain things that might have saved me a lot of misery if I'd caught on sooner. Nothing has come easily to me, and it didn't help that I had people calling me stupid, flaky, and selfish. We should try to build one another up rather than tearing each other down.

~Ornery Owl Has Declared It So~



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10 comments:

  1. Thanks for your visit and comments ~ having trouble with google and wasn't sure this was the Ornery Owl right link ~ so had to search on Safari ~ I agree I don't think the dark is bad ~ it was good for the haiku though ~ thanks ~ ^_^

    Live each moment with love,

    A ShutterBug Explores,
    aka (A Creative Harbor)

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  2. Had trouble knowing if this was the right link for Ornery Owl ~ but alas it is ~ Thanks for your visit and comments and I agree I used 'dark' as opposite of light for my haiku but don't feel dark is always bad ~ 'poetic license' if you will `

    Live each moment with love,

    A ShutterBug Explores,
    aka (A Creative Harbor)

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  3. Cie, I love that you took the time to draft this post although it maybe kind of made me feel a bit like a butthead! I am so hyper diligent about responding to blog comments (granted other things fall by the wayside because of it) that I do have a tendency to get irritated when I don't see my comments on other blogs at least approved and posted. I don't need a response. In fact, I rarely go back to see if I got a response to a comment. But I would like for my comments to at least be published when I took the time to type them! So in my head I may have judged others harshly. Thank you for that perspective because I hadn't even considered that the reason may simply be a case of overwhelm (which I am all too familiar with)! Thanks for linking up. And hey, you just keep doing what you do they way you do it! It's your space after all and there are is no blogging book of etiquette (or is there?)!

    Shelbee
    www.shelbeeontheedge.com

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    1. Thank you, Shelbee. I have a tendency to judge myself harshly. In fact, I forgot that I had comments to approve, so I didn't get to this until Thursday!

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  4. I totally get this! I don't participate in most blog hops or link ups because the "rules" are unclear or just plain unmanageable for anyone not spending 10 hours a day at the computer (or glued to their phone). You do you, girl.

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    1. Agreed. I've tried to participate in multiple blog hops in the past and just ended up feeling like I didn't even have time to create posts anymore. At this point I pretty much keep it to literary blog hops where I feel like the other participants and I may be able to help each other.

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  5. I must admit, I'm somewhat less charitable. People will take me as they find me, or they can p off.

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  6. Thanks so much for linking up with me at my #UnlimitedMonthlyLinkParty 16, open until September 26!

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I try to get comments published as quickly as possible. I have ADHD and anxiety and sometimes I need to work myself up to be able to respond to comments. I don't always reply to comments on my blog, but I do try to visit as many people as possible when I participate in blog hops. I share your work on the monthly Roost Recommendations posts at ornerybookemporium.blogspot.com so others can discover your work. I do read and appreciate your comments.
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